Read More: The Truth About Sex After Baby. But I'm scared right now. What would life look like. You wonder how women like Meghan Markle look flawless (in heels, no less! ) On top of the pile of gifts is a small little white envelope – a letter to an expectant mother. We knew you were amazing, even when you didn't. You'll be on a first name basis with your GP and a few different specialists, so get health insurance as soon as she's born. To new the twin mom who feels guilty because you only have two hands and can only soothe one baby at a time when they are both crying. With so much to remember, it can be easy to remain stuck in our minds. I wanted to write you this note to share some thoughts and wishes for you as you begin this journey. At this point, you've likely run out of time. Everything is going to be new and you'll need to have someone to ask, even if it's just how to use a steriliser and when to express.
I would tell her how life will be the hardest it ever has been but also the most complete it has ever been. We cried and kissed with joy. These dark moments were kept secret, and at times I even tried to push them down so deep that I may ignore them. They've told you that if you were enough, you would be thinner, prettier and more sought-after. God uses it all and weaves it into a beautiful life. Dear New Twin Mom, In October of 2017, my life was complete when my dream of motherhood came true. Nevertheless, you are here to learn and grow, and this won't ever stop, so don't worry about that. But it takes a village, as they say, to raise a child.
Ask them if you sound like you. To the new twin mom with both babies in the NICU who has to come home to an empty nursery, scared and full of anxiety, exhausted and stressed, recovering from a C-section or vaginal delivery–you got this. Yes, you won't always feel like you are. I started to understand that you and I both were growing and learning. God knows nobody ever taught you to care for your own.
Your marriage or partnership will mature; it will grow. How would my career change. Feeling isolated all day long without any adult interaction. Please share with someone who may benefit from reading! Some day you will learn to stop focusing on perfection and realize it is enough to just love him in every way that you know how. If we can find a way to see the world through a child's eyes, then we're sure to remember how precious our journeys are as first-time moms.
Your eyes became brighter, your latch became better, and you slept better during the night. Because they will spit up the second you get them dressed, they'll cry when you put them in the car seat, they will refuse every single pacifier Target has to offer, and you'll end up taking the long way because, of course, they just fell asleep right as you turned down your street. My heart hurts for you, but I know something you don't. Soak it all in, but know it's OK if you don't enjoy and savor every single moment. We had changing stations set up in almost every room. You and the one you love made them in all that perfection that lies there in your arms. Perhaps you're feeling a bit blue or disconnected from everything? Being your mom is new, but also feels right. Ignore the mess sometimes. And sometimes their cries leave you at a complete loss.
When you think some nights you'll never sleep again, you will. While it is truly a special role to step into, there is also no doubt that your world has changed completely. You are undergoing your life's biggest, hardest transformation. You cry as you rock him and that's fine.
And you do know it, now, even though you're fighting it. It helps us remember not to take life as seriously, which is hard. The same goes for feeding, if it's breastfeeding or formula feeding, as long as your baby has a full tummy that is the ONLY thing that matters. If you experienced a vaginal birth, I have one word for you: padsicles. My husband and I would discuss how amazing and fortuitous it was that we were getting two kids at once, "killing two birds with one stone", especially since we were getting older. We'll collect the letters and hand-deliver them to women during their prenatal doctor appointments. You are beautiful and courageous! So demoralizing, especially when you think about what formula costs for two babies.
So, my wish is for you to breathe it all in. Don't push yourself. You're exhausted and anxious and run ragged, but you're also in love. Did you have a premature baby? Because you are on the same team. Who you are is BEAUTY and WISDOM and LOVE and LOVE and LOVE.