The boy felt a little proud of himself. Consider the following story: There once was a little boy with a temper he didn't control very well. During the first day, the boy ended up hammering 25 nails into the fence. The little boy found it very difficult to hammer the nails and decided to control his temper.
The basic message of "The Nail in the Fence" is the same: words can wound, so use them with care. It's true words said in anger create emotional scars; and it's better if we don't inflict wounds on each other, but if the wound happens, or happened in the past, it's important to know the scars can heal. And in that case, we will be able to look at the "clean" side of the fence — making it easier to forgive. Asked the boy gave a confused look. Then he said, "When you get angry, hammer a nail on this fense. " Rehearse it in your mind.
He was determined to reduce the number of nails hammered and on the second day, he hammered 20 nails! This was an enjoyable task for the boy, so he accepted. He shared this discovery with his father and the both of them then went to the backyard. Have done well, my son, but look at the. Know how to take care of yourself. After a few weeks, the little boy informed his father that all the nails were removed from the fence. Several weeks went by and the day finally came when the young boy was able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. Then it gradually dwindled down. There are a lot of people who have needed to be reminded of this. Unfortunately we tend to realize the level of irreversible damage we caused only in hindsight and even more, the ones we tend to hurt the worst are the people we usually love the most. "In the world you will have tribulation. Finally, the father had an idea. And a reminder most of us need from time to ti me. Father is very happy now.
Lend an ear, they share words of praise. It only takes a moment to create an emotional trigger (think about how you felt when you saw a high school bully in the hallway). This disclosure is provided in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR § 255. It won't matter how many times you say you're sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. This is a short story about restraining bad temper. The day passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were. "My feelings were hurt when I didn't know where you were at the party. " Now, every time he lost temper he used to ran toward the fence and hammer a nail to it. Technophiles can put in on their Palm Pilots. Often the habit of reacting angrily is just that - a habit you learned when you were young and haven´t questioned since. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. The father always thought about how to solve this problem. If it comes back to you, you will.
You may be able to remove most of the nails but the holes and scratches in the fence cannot be erased. The father appreciated him and asked him pointing to a hole, "What do you see there? The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. When we are young, saying or doing mean or hurtful things out of anger or frustration to the ones we love (or even strangers for that matter) seems pretty easily remedied. He was even more excited this time to share this new achievement with his father. You don't know the negative impact of the things you do and speak out while in anger! " As long as you hold onto resentment, you will feel like a helpless, hopeless, dependent victim of your past history. Ahvays want to open their hearts to us.
Suggested that the boy now pull out one. Wound will still be there. The fence will never look the same. Personals, as well as a Redbook Love Network expert and "Psychology Smarts" columnist for First for.
Phone: (562)438-8077 | for permission to reprint, email: All material copyright ©2017 Tina Tessina. You can say, "When we go to parties, I'd like to you to let me know where you are, and I want you to understand why I feel bad if you don't. Teacher happily took her to the back of her house and said the game was not over. After several days, the number of nails that he hammered began decreasing. He told his father about it and the father.
When you say or do hurtful things out of anger, they leave a scar just like this. "But, " he told himself, "that just shows how stupid most people are! They will remain there now permanently. Days passed and with every coming day, the number of nails hammered reduced. Letting go of resentment without fixing the problem makes you vulnerable to being hurt or mistreated over and over again. A fence: A story with a great moral... (author unknown). And parenting, family, and current issues posts helpful!
Was finally able to tell his father that all. ©2008 Tina B. Tessina. You have had enough! The day finally came when the boy didn't lose his temper even once. Causing pain to others is one problem but causing pain to ourselves is another story and much more painful.
Midway through this piece I not only realized and agree with the end result of how anger leaves scars but also, that anger comes with a price. As it is with us, it takes us so much energy and effort to be angry and act upon it rather than acknowledging it, and controlling it. Decide on a prize you will give to yourself if you succeed. Causing pain to ourselves is another. Your blood begins to boil.